There were guys who had the courage to take advantage the weaknesses of a woman who loved and trusted him. A relationship that started from interaction. It was the result of building a feeling due to attraction. Knowing each other fully well, sharing and talking each other until it developed into something more, joining their hearts together. Why so sudden an attraction? Because the man was very friendly, handsome, approachable and talented most women admired? Or, due to something else that she only know within herself.
Most women started to improved their appearance, changing their hairstyle, doing make-over, maintaining an ideal weight to be more pleasing to the eyes of the guys they love.
One story I've known I used as an example for this article.The relationship started with flying colors. He was an American guy proposing relationship to the Asian woman he loved. She was in love with him deeply and honestly. The feeling she had inside her heart, an emotion of trust and confidence hoping they will be together for good. It took 3 years of a wonderful relationship. It blossomed everyday until the day they decided to get married with the refusal of her parents about their relationship. As she loved the guy, she went against the will of her parents without their blessings and protected him all the way.
Then suddenly without warning, it changes everything she hoped.. Her world crumbled down, the decision she made faltered. It all started when another woman entered into the scene. She did not realized that trusting so much has its own price and it did pay, and it was heartache. She made a mistake not knowing that the guy had a hidden secret behind his masked of deceit. All those wonderful moment with him gone with the wind. She lost everything, heart was broken, dreams shattered, tears falling down from the eyes as a sign of pain, anger and lost. She had a relationship that never realized. It pained her knowing that the guy did not truly love her. It hurts her so bad.
It was painful remembering that the guy did not give importance to her feeling. This sad experience cannot be recovered in a single day. The healing may need a lot of time and space especially it started to affect her mind making it hard for her to forget what happened in her life. This feeling of emptiness will continue to eat her existence for some time.
For those who still started to enter into a relationship with a man, be cautious. Don't give too much trust. True behavior will appear sooner or later. Give time for yourself to know him better before accepting him. Check his true intention to you. There were many ways to determine the truthfulness of an intention. Don't dive into a relationship immediately based on the reason that you love him deeply. Be sensible and be smart. If you are not yet sure about your feeling, then don't do, you might regret it later.
If you failed, move on. The pain will continue for a period of time. Give yourself time to heal naturally. Don't try to develop into another bout of mental strain, if possible avoid it. It can only bring back the feeling you wanted to avoid delaying your full recovery. It is the only chance you've got. Get your life back. Don't let that feeling dominate you.
Mixed emotion of hate and love hit you. You did not understand why despite of being a good wife, your husband no longer care for you instead it brought pain inside yourself. You don't know the reason why. You asked yourself, did I missed something? As being a good wife was not enough? What you did was to shed tears, the living memory of your frustration, heartaches and wasted marriage.
It was a wonderful scene seeing you together sharing laughter and dreams when you 2 first meet. Happiness fall around you as if there was no end. You elated hearing that the dream of being together for good is now to be realized. Your happiness was even greater when you have your first child. The child that give you inspiration, hope and courage to face all the tests of time. You don't mind giving your full attention to the child you love even more than yourself.
Then something gone wrong. An unexpected situation that rock your marriage. Promises were broken. It pained you deeply. The memory of a lost love keep bothering your mind even in your sleep. You don't know what to do. It weakened you. It hurts as if there was no life left in you.
You were now alone. The loneliness crept inside you numbing your entire body damaging the very fabric of your personality. You cannot even comb your hair. What was left in you was sadness of being the only person standing in the front of the door waiting and expecting that the happiness you felt before will come back for the second time. But it did not.
Many years had passed, it came into your mind to look for someone you can lean on to share once again your broken dreams. There were many guys but no one win your heart completely. You continued looking day and night with the hope that someone will be knocking at your door, the man that is the answer to your prayers. It was not easy but you tried, and failed again and again.
You did not fully surrendered your life for nothing. You were still hoping that someday happiness will be at your doorstep. You continued looking in every corners of the world doing it with interest that someday, somehow someone will come along who wanted to share with your life forever. You kept on looking and hoping, that was the only effort you tried for the moment.
Odorous feet was due to bacterial onslaught. Cleanliness is the only precaution to avoid this embarrassing odor:
-Clean your feet several times a day. Wash it by using soap, warm water especially if you were sweating. Clean in between your toes. You can use soft brush to remove all the dirt that can aggravate the odor. After your washing, it should be dried. Wet foot can easily conquered by bacteria.
-Apply foot powder or cornstarch. Buy in the pharmacy the anti-fungal spray. There were some people used talcum powder, placed in between the toes to easily dry the sweating.
-Use a deodorant or anti- perspiration treatment to your feet. Use a maximum of 3 to 4 times a day, if it become a serious foot odor. Reduce your application if there were some improvement in your treatment.
-Most of the reason why sweating occurred was due to the kind of sock you were wearing in addition to the kind of shoes you were taking. It may cause to odor because it developed into a wet foot where the bacteria will thrive and flourish. Use thus socks that are not thick. A thin one is better so that the air can pass through it immediately and dry the foot. Use cotton socks that are more absorbent. Avoid any synthetic socks that encourage perspiration.
-A very closed shoes also cause a sweaty foot. Use sandals or open-toed shoes as ventilation to dry your foot. Don't use rubber or plastic, because this was common to people to have an odorous feet.
-Have an extra pair of socks you can use alternately daily to feel fresh.
-Before you go to bed, wash it thoroughly with alcohol. Let it dry, then use deodorant overnight. In the early morning, wash your feet and treat again when you wear your socks and shoes. Do this every night and everyday. The routine was time consuming but your effort is not wasted. It's just a matter of diligence otherwise your foot problem can never be cured. No one want to smell an odor from your shoes.
-Your feet has a sweat glands that respond to stress thus increasing bacterial production in the shoes. Make every effort to diligently clean your foot as often as needed.
Remember once you have odorous feet, it will remain forever because there were some abnormality in the sweat glands in your feet that manufactured sweats targeted by bacteria. Cleanliness is your only hope to stop this embarrassing odor.
Due to lour own ifestyle ulcers was common to hit us. Any active ulcer had a gnawing sensation. The discomfort was located at the middle or upper abdomen. It comes in between meals or in the middle of the night.
Ulcer complication is life-threatening. A very serious ulcer will occur if it started bleeding. If it becomes larger, there will be a risk for the major blood vessels to rupture. There will be a continuous internal bleeding. It is not easy to treat hemorrhage inside the body as we cannot see them what's happening unless we wanted our stomach to have an x-ray procedure. Treatment can only be applied once the diagnosis is really an ulcer.
The most serious problem occurred if it perforate and erode the wall of the stomach causing severe infection because of stomach content rid by the bacteria.
For temporary relief of the pain, antacid van be used. To avoid your ulcers to become serious do the following:
-Stop smoking cigarette
-Stop drinking liquor
-Avoid any food that can bring discomfort like eating spicy and oily foods.
-Don't eat too much. Digestion is slow when stomach is full.
-Don't drink milk as it can stimulate production of hydrochloric acid.
-Other digestive juices inside the stomach can cause severe pain.
-Don't use aspirin as it can irritate the intestinal lining and cause bleeding.
-Avoid being stress, anxiety, depression that can add to the aggravating occurrence of ulcers.
What you will do to control the pain inside your stomach:
-Use antacid as prime measures to control ulcers.
-If severe, surgery is necessary.
-Treat bacteria that cause pain like Helobacter pylori hitting the stomach lining.
Our stomach is very important to our existence. We have to take care not to upset the delicate lining of the stomach. Any warning signs should be attended immediately.
Many of us did not know the important of sunlight to our body. Although too much heat from the sun causes skin cancer, aging of the skin and even premature wrinkling but it has many benefits.
It has a good side if we use proper amount of heat in the early morning as it can manufacture Vitamin D.
We used sunlight to dry our clothes and for the growth of plants. It dried out a wet place where germs and other harmful microorganisms lived. We need sunlight to live both plants and animals and other organisms that are dependent to the sunlight.
Sunshine is most beneficial during early morning. It helps the skin to be more healthy and smooth. Tanned skin can resist infection.
Gloomy weather, raining, fogging without the presence of the sun causes mood changes. Staying too long inside the house because of bad weather causes boredom.
In time of good weather, people become active to do their daily activities, leisure hours, doing exercise under the heat of the sun, strolling in the park, anything under the shadow of the sun. The sun become the umbrella for people to exist.
Sunshine become important in treating depression. The body will manufacture vitamin D when sunlight hit the skin. With vitamin D, the body will pick-up calcium from the intestine. It can build healthy bones. It can enhance the immune system and aid in the prevention of osteoporosis. There are many reasons why sunlight is important to us, it alleviate pain from arthritis.
Comparing the benefits of the 2 instances is that heat of the sun has more advantages. Skin cancer can only present if you let your skin burn under the heat of the sun. It can destroy healthy cells. Continuous burning can cause this dreaded disease. But if you can control it by the use of sunscreen, the best. Either way avoid the heat then you have no skin cancer. Avoidance is the only thing you need and everything will be alright.
In some families, disagreement between parents and teenagers occurred. It was a painful scene to see a child turned into a disrespectful teenager. When parents talked about the right thing, a teenager do the wrong thing. There was always the opposite. Why? Teenager don't like to be interfered with his own life. He wanted to decide what is best for him. The teenager failed to realize that he put his life into a position where decision always has its own failure.
It developed into distant relationship between them. Teenager did not believed parents were always right. What he decided was the right one also. He disobeyed his parents because he wanted to create his own identity without interference from them; whether he is right or wrong.
Teenager has that feeling of uncertainty and doubt about himself. He used rebellion to tell his parents that he is responsible to his own life.
Some parents tolerated this kind of behavior. They don't want to lengthen their disagreement that might lead to another serious confrontation. They can't discipline their teenager who was hard-headed, rebellious and disrespectful. If they will insist, a teenager will resort to running away from home and be at the mercy of another rebellious group. It was the deepest fear of the parents to see their son totally separated from their direction and guidance. Suddenly their beloved son became the problematic child of the society being delinquent.
This scene was common to our modern society today. Teenagers were doing things different from the expectation of their parents. Allowing dependence will result to resentment. So parents decided to allow his teenage son to make his own choices. It seemed the son was testing his parents' patience by resisting any rules.
For those parents who don't have a problematic children yet, they must guide their children closely. Train them for self-respect. Set limit but with values.
One time in our lives we felt some form of guilt feeling to the things we have done, blaming ourselves to the consequences due to error of good judgment. It bothered us most of the time during our waking hours. We because restless talking to ourselves saying "Why Should I Let Her Go".
Take the case of Dino. He was a good family man. His wife and daughter was all he had in his life. One day, he told his wife to ask assistance from his parents regarding the payments of school obligation of his daughter in school. It was raining at that time. His wife refused to go at first because of the rain but due to necessity of having the money for their daughter she consented to his husband's prodding for her to go.
His wife departed with heavy heart. She rode a bus 4 hours trip to the place of her parents-in-law. While the bus was running in a curved road, the driver attempted to overtake another vehicle in his front without seeing another vehicle in the left lane. Due to the speed of the bus it smashed head-on to the other vehicle. The head-on collision resulted to the death of quite a number of passengers those sitting near the driver. Among the fatalities was the wife of Dino.
When Dino knew the accident, he was in too much remorse blaming himself what happened to his wife. He started returning to his habit of heavy drinking. He wrecked his life because of the guilt inside his mind. This bothering thoughts brought havoc to his life. Due to his depression of what he has seen in the accident area taunting him, ridiculing him until he end his life by hanging inside his room. This was how guilt can do more harm to anyone.
Instead of putting his guilt in the right direction and maintaining good composure despite of what happened, he resorted to an action that brought misery to his daughter as an orphan.
No one was perfect. No one can predetermine what will happen ahead either good or bad. There is no need to spend too much energy blaming and hating himself when there is still a way to manage it with openness. Instead of having an appropriate step to reduce his bothered thoughts and move forward but he resorted to a very extreme action.
If it will happen to you, what you will do?
-Cultivate an ability to forget it.
-Don't let the accident to torment your life.
-Walk away from experiences that are already over.
-Learn you lesson and more careful in deciding the next time.
-Avoid useless reprisal to yourself over the mistake that you have no control.
-Pray for direction and understanding, calming your senses and have peace of mind.
-Manage your feeling in a constructive manner. Don't allow the bad thoughts to destroy your life.
We were temporarily living in this world with many risk around us. Surely, we have our end at the right time. Just make the most out of it. Find peace in your heart and mind and you will survive.
Maintaining the condition of your lawn can add beauty to your house. Plant your lawn with Bermuda grass. It was used by many homeowners as landscaping medium because of the nature of its growth. It spreads evenly in the surface. Be sure to remove other grasses that mix with them. The even cut of the grasses through good trimming gives your lawn a new look good for the eye. Every now and then, you have to water the grasses so that it can sprout many new leaves. If they grow more than your standard height, begin your trimming once a month. You have to use lawn mower to do your job easily.
Do a periodic maintenance of the mowing machine. Clean, oil, sharpen it so that when you use it there will be an even cut to the grass.
If there was already a landscaping circle with big rocks around it as a division planted with palm trees as shading, it should be maintain at all time. Paint the rocks with white color to enhance its beauty.
Add colorful rose plants along the vicinity of the lawn in plotted area. When they have flowers, remove dried leaves away from it.
Have a little pathway from your house to your lawn lined with stones or rocks painted with white color.
Fertilize your lawn periodically. The purpose is to give the Bermuda grass a healthy growth.
It is more beautiful if you add various flower plants that can give flowers a year round.
Diligent maintenance can keep your lawn in good condition saving you less effort when you do the next mowing schedule.
It was common for a child to have bad dreams. But having nightmares occasionally can cause your child to become ill. Little children don't understand the reason of their dreaming, the more they don't understand nightmares haunting them during their sleep with grotesque appearance of a man-eating beast looking at them.
With this condition, you should give more time for your child. Because of his early age, it is better for your child to sleep with you in a room so that he has confidence in his mind that you can protect him when he is afraid.
When child 's condition worsened by many episode of bad dreams, see a doctor. Before going to bed turn the lights on so that he can see the room that you are beside him. Before sleeping, give him a comforting hug to assure him that there's nothing to be afraid of and what he sees in his dream is not real.
Ask him what he was dreaming about so that you can give a better idea on how to assure him about his fears. Whatever distressing image he had seen can be explain to him in details. Tell him that you will protect him and ready to defend him against those monsters.
Show calmness and be gentle. Don't reprimand him if he insisted seeing bothering images as not to add more to his fears.
Don't allow your child to see those pictures about monsters in books and magazines or other pictures that will help the reason to dream. Any bad images can penetrate easily into his subconscious mind of what he has seen was true.
Do not allow your child to see a monster-type episode in the TV. There were other educational programs helpful for self and confidence building.
Bad dream was based on child's belief and experiences. If something was wrong, attend to it at once. Don't delay, it may cause psychological problem later on. Be sensitive to his feeling. Give your child a peaceful environment free from all his fears and anxieties.
If in your lifetime you encountered a conflict with your friends, neighbors or even your brother and other people to issues you don't agree, what will you do? If the infighting continues, the good relationship that you were building for quite a time now will be broken due to your disagreement.
If the conflict came from you, you have to accept responsibility of your action. Lower your pride and make steps for reconciliation. You have the right about your feelings and views, but if you think it was your mistake then there is no reason for you to insist that you are right. Accept it. Be humble. The person you were in conflict with will understand and ready to accept you back. But if he cannot accept even if you humbly apologized for the things you have done then its up to him. You were already doing your part, maybe later on he will understand. For now just leave him temporarily and do a continues effort for reconciliation when the right time comes.
The important thing was that you tried to make the relationship to return back same as before. In a relationship, a better communication was mostly required to be able to know what was in his mind and yours. Don't ramble behind his back and tell it to other person, it can only ignite the flame more.
Don't talk too much to become personal. You were only creating your own problem to become worse. Focus only to issues you were in disagreement with him and see what you can do. Don't wait for a longer time before you act. The earlier the better.
Remember, do not fight on every issue. Stick to the point and nothing more. Ask yourself if it is worth a fight. You are only wasting your time instead of doing something worthy.
Learn how to listen. Give him time to talk and hear his side. Remain calm. After he presented his points then you can talk. It is much better if you talk briefly. Too much discussion can only ruin what you wanted to achieve.
Find a way for the resolution of the conflict. Use a go-between among your friend or both your families to settle such misunderstanding. It is not always effective if you settle the conflict only to both of you. With the help of your parents or other friends they can help pacify whatever emotion that are going to burst if not handled properly
If there is reconciliation going to happen, be careful. Give time for the healing. Don't touch any issues again. Let it buried underground.
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